One day, you’ll wake up in a daze, and find yourself with a bucket full of eligible, decent, good dudes, all clamoring for your attention.“How could I possibly date two people, or even three people, when handling one person was too much?One day, you’re swiping sullenly through Tinder bemoaning the lack of attractive, normal-seeming men that are possibly as tall as they say they are in their profiles, and the next, you find yourself drafting a spreadsheet to keep track of the nine dates that you have somehow booked for one week. Like all things in life, your dating life will ebb and flow.Years of Sahara-like drought will give way to a summer full of eternal possibility, teeming with tapas dates and dinner dates and beach dates galore.Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.
However, this is not something I have ever done before and I am having a hard time with the idea of juggling.
As it turns out, I met a third woman, who was so incredible that I immediately emailed the other two, broke things off, and took my profile down to commit. Let’s say Bachelor #2 turns out to be a great guy…who admits after two months that although he was excited about you, he’s on the rebound, not emotionally over his ex-girlfriend and is not fit to be your partner at this point in time. So please come back and let us know if I retroactively steered you in the right direction, okay? Everywhere you went you just magically kept finding great women who were into you and wanted to date you!
Naturally, it took the third woman about two weeks to feel comfortable committing to me, but she eventually did. Yes, you’re dating two men, but that doesn’t mean that these are the only two men on the planet. You had the leisure of committing to someone before they committed to you because you always just assumed that so many women wanted to be with you that you could always get what you wanted.
They seem to be feeling pretty strongly so I feel some pressure to figure this out. So, Maggie, you’re seeing two great guys for 2-3 weeks.
You didn’t give me any identifying information that would allow me to recommend one man or the other, so all I’m left with is the general idea of dating multiple men simultaneously.